It is not easy to miss the changes happening in our small coastal village. Living downtown and owning a business on the main street I am watching our little village expanding rapidly. People in the city are realising that urban dwelling may not be sustainable in the long term, nor is it necessary to maintain gainful employment or a fulfilling and healthy lifestyle. Hence, the new hustle and bustle of Lennox is upon us.
I have written before about how embracing change ensures that we do not experience struggle and self-imposed suffering. But how do we embrace change when it is not something that we as individuals can control? How do we embrace change that we do not welcome?
The short answer to this is to change our perception and to let go of judgment. Wanting things to remain as they were yesterday is an impossible ask and will only cause us sadness. Moments when we feel drastic change can propel us out of where we find it comfortable to live emotionally.
We all have an emotional home and often in times of transition or when we are faced with life stressors, we revert back to this emotional home, it is like our emotional default mechanism.
What is your emotional home?
Where do you dwell emotionally when faced with life changes? This emotional home can cause us to view the world where we feel emotionally comfortable. If our emotional home is sadness, then sadness is how we view the world in times of transition and change.
My emotional default is very much overwhelm and over thinking, my emotional home is most definitely anxiousness. I have learnt to manage this overwhelm and anxiousness with a deep sense of faith and hope, practising the power of positive thought and awareness through mindfulness based practices. I recognise that what is happening around me is transition and I purposely generate feelings of complete faith that this is what is designed to be happening at this present moment, even if I am not comfortable with what is happening.
Becoming aware of oneself and what we can control is paramount to accepting change. Often we cannot control our external environment, what we can control is our internal environment and how we respond. Once we grasp the awareness that our internal environment governs how we perceive, feel and engage with our external environment it becomes much easier to navigate our external environment that is continuously changing. Whether we like the change or not, it is happening, and we must change our perception in order to meet that change positively. We must embrace it and believe that change can only mean growth and growth is a good thing.
Is it not?